Wednesday, December 17, 2025

What Turning 45 Has Taught Me

Words of wisdom - as I contemplate 45.  I am a learner. Every day I work to be better, to know more. To practice what I learn.  These thoughts below are things I have learned from my plethora of teachers, they are not my words, but my accumulation of knowledge and practice.  If I can remember and act on these things, I think life will continue to be pretty amazing.  The teachers that have provided some of these words are Louise Hay, Desikachar, Mel Robbins, James Clear, Sahil Bloom, and many, many more scientists, yogis, and beyond.  I hope you read and continue learning your whole life. And I hope you continue to call your mom and teach her the wisdom you are absorbing. 


If you find yourself feeling envious of someone else's success, let their success be the fuel you need to inspire you to act and create your own success.

If you find yourself feeling judged by others, let them judge you.  You can't control their thoughts, and you certainly won't be able to prevent them from judging. Judging is human.  Do you anyway. 

If you're not motivated to do something to improve your life or your health, it's probably going to take some form of pain to force you to change.

If you want to reach a goal, you have to show up every day and do the boring, uncomfortable, and annoying work.  

No one else can stop you from achieving your goals. You are the only barrier.

There is enough success and abundance to go around. It's in limitless supply. 

Something is better than nothing, and a little goes a long way.

Let them live their life. Let you focus on yours. 

Being rich and being wealthy are two different things. Wealth is the accumulation of all the wonderful things in life. I may not be rich, but I will take wealthy over rich any day! 

Not every email or text or comment requires a response. No response is a response. You don't always have to have the last word.

Consider at least once a quarter to ask yourself:

  1. What's creating energy in your life right now? 
  2. What's depleting your energy in life right now? Then do something about it. 

As an adult, everything is your responsibility.  If you are looking for someone or something else to improve your life, your health, provide you with happiness, secure your success etc, you are looking in the wrong place.  No one is coming to your rescue.  You are responsible for fixing your problems. 

When you see someone being negative, hateful, vengeful, or any other undesirable trait, say, "Thank you for showing me what I don't want, so that I can focus on what I do want."

Life isn't fair. Move forward anyway.

Find someone to do life with. Someone who will lift you up when you fall down. Someone who will make you laugh when all you want to do is cry. 

Fail and fail often. Don't fear it. Look it in the face and try again. 

Take risks. They might not always work out in your favor, but you don't know what you will miss if you don't put yourself out there. 

When in doubt, breathe. 

Your life is the physical manifestation of your thoughts. What are you thinking about?

You get what you want with 3 easy steps:

  1. Imagine and write down with clarity and detail what you want
  2. Believe it's already yours. Replace doubt with faith.
  3. Open your mind and heart to receive it
 The 3 pillars to living a happy life are:

  1. Reframe your situation- flip the script
  2. Have compassion for yourself and others
  3. List all the things you are grateful for
Celebrate the small successes toward the big goal.  That's part of enjoying and staying present to the journey.

Approach your body with curiosity, not animosity.

The things that are difficult or keep recurring in our life are the lessons we have chosen to overcome in this life. 

When we are attentive to our actions, we are not prisoner to our habits.

Prayer is talking to God, meditation is listening to him.

You can't change what is, but you can change your perception of it. 

You don't make mistakes. Mistakes make you. When you fail you learn. When you fail you live.

When you change one thing, you change everything.

Want to change your behavior for good?

  1. make it obvious
  2. make it attractive
  3. make it easy
  4. make it enjoyable

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