Being a loving husband isn't going to be easy. One day you'll have a wife who you love dearly, but at times will drive you absolutely crazy. It's the way that marriage works. It won't always be rainbows and unicorns. Sometimes marriage is dark, stormy clouds and high winds that threaten to tear down everything you have built.
The strong individuals who make up that marriage though, fight through the storm, and always come back to the roots; why I fell in love with this person in the first place. The strong ones work to remember that person they were head over heels for, reflect on how they each have grown, and then work towards growing back together. The strong ones know and admit when it's time to ask for external help and healing to work towards love again when love falters.
I've known your dad for longer than I haven't known him and he has always been a man of high moral standards and strong values. He has always been loving and generous, funny and brave, just like you. He, though it sounds like a line from a rom-com and corny as hell, is truthfully the one that makes me want to be a better person. I have always been grateful to be the woman he chose to live his life with... except on the days I haven't.
Sometimes we forget and take for granted the blessings we have in this life. You'll forget too sometimes not long into your marriage as well. We all do, when the honeymoon phase is over. But this Valentine's day I want to share some love letters, poems, and songs your dad has written to me over the years that make me think I am so glad he is your dad and you get to see a firm example of how a man should treat a woman.
My biggest wish for you is that you learn from them, and from watching our relationship as you have grown, how to love better. How to be a man a woman is grateful for. How to be a man of honor who loves and cherishes his wife more days than not. How to remind her time to time of that person she fell head over heels for. Be like your dad, and the woman you choose, will be the luckiest girl in the world.
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'I know what God looks like, I’ve seen him. I didn’t realize it at first, but it didn’t take long. He comes to us in the strangest of times, in the strangest of circumstances, when we are least expecting it. Most of the time we miss it, He just passes by us as we are preoccupied with other more worldly things; but I got lucky…just once. It was 20 years ago, in the basement of the house I lived in during college, and there, in the strangest of times, during the strangest of circumstances, when I was least expecting it…the most beautiful creation of God I have ever seen walked down the stairs. She walked into my life that night, and I thank God I was present enough to realize who she was.
From that night on I knew what it was like to have your other half with you; what it is like to feel whole. We have spent five of the last eight years apart from each other, and knowing what it feels like to be whole makes being apart from her that much harder. I feel broken, I don’t feel right, everything just feels off…I feel like half of a man. But it also makes coming home to her that much better!
We have been through so much since then, so many experiences in so many places. It has been an adventure to say the least. But through it all, good or bad, all day every day, no matter what happens, all I can think of is, “I can’t wait to tell Sarah this!”
When people say love at first sight is like a bolt of lightning they aren’t kidding, it’s unmistakable, you know it immediately. I met my best friend 20 years ago, and now I miss her, I want to be back with my best friend, because I am in love with her. Sarah, will you be my best friend for another 20 years?
Happy First Day baby, I love you with all of my God given soul.'
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